Let me start by saying this. I'm 24 years old and have never had a boyfriend. The last date I was on involved McDonald's and a drive in the country with my date from Prom. Which looking back, I don't consider it much of a date really. Anyways, this brings me to a topic that has come up numerous times lately in my life and I want to address it.


Being "unattached" aka being single.


Last Saturday I was at a dinner party with ex-colleagues from a company I used to work for. It was a good time of catching up and eating good food. During one of the conversations with an ex-colleague, she asked if I have been seeing anyone. I was like "...uh, no." And I was quick to add "but I'm okay with that". She quickly retorted with "I wouldn't be!". (She's been married for a handful of years and has two kids).


Why is it that some people can't handle even the notion of other people still being single in their 20's (let alone any older age bracket). It's especially hard in the dutch culture I grew up in and have family ties to. Most of my cousins on my mom's side over the age of 20 are married. (Heaven frick'n forbid you are still single by mid-late 20's!). My aunts and uncles I think have pretty much given up asking. Which is fine, I hate when they ask anyways because why is that such a pinnacle of life?


To me having a life I enjoy, living in God's will, having great friendships and being part of a fantastic church is more important at this time in my life. I'm very thankful that I've had a couple of years of immense spiritual and personal growth I'm not sure I could have experienced as a married person.


I think it's somewhat harder as a Christian to be a single. Or at least when explaining to non "religious" people why you aren't dating or shacked up with someone. My only answer to them is that my social circles are pretty small and they don't involve single men. The church I attend and am heavily involved in has very few single men. So what are my options then? Church hopping? (Just KIDDING. I love telling people about a series of books I read once where that was the main plot of the stories). Or follow the trend of "hunting" online? (At this moment, I don't have the "balls" to do more than look at profiles)


Being in a relationship or married doesn't "complete" me and I'm very thankful that is not my mindset! I think someone falsely let themselves believe this lie as an excuse that they have to always be in a relationship. Maybe it's because I've not even "tasted" a real relationship that I find it okay to be single?!?


I dunno but these are my thoughts on the subject at the moment! :)

P.S. Check out my posting on "R is for Rejection" on my deeper thoughts blog.

Last night after working out I was mentioning to my workout buddy that I need some new music. Sadly I've been listening to pretty much just two albums/artists for the past two years - Grits and Manafest. Any suggestions? I need lots of beat and energy music!

Interestingly enough while at work waiting for my machine to run, I came across some new music! Mind you it's not for working out but it's beautiful! I'm not a big fan of female singers (for some reason) but this lady rocks! Brooke Fraser:

Love it!

(that's what I call a catchy blog title and possible book title?!? Just kidding)

Yesterday I received a couple new followers on twitter and the one being Matthew Paul Turner!

I have no idea how he found my twitter or why I'm interesting enough to follow :P Anyways, my point is this - I read one of his books a couple years ago and I will never forget it. Funniest book ever on a topic most "Christians" avoid like the plague - "What Your Parents Didn't Teach You About Sex". I remember there being somewhat of an issue* about his book being too uh, risky to be put in the Christian market. I really wanted to buy a copy and give one to every friend who was getting married except I don't think it would have gone over too well. (The single girl giving the soon-to-be-married a book on sex? How awkward!)

We, Christians, have such a warped view on the topic. Thankfully I was a smart kid and learned quickly all about the "birds and the bees" relieving my parents of ever having to give "the talk". Aren't you lucky Mom? (She reads this blog) I think people, especially those of the religious kind, should gain a healthy knowledge and understanding of sex. Why? For various reasons and you dear reader, are smart enough to figure that out.

Which brings me to another book I've read recently - "Sex and the Church" by Carmen Renee Berry. This was a really fascinating book about how sex effected change in the church from women being property of their husband to gaining rights in society and within the church. I didn't think I would enjoy so much history of the church but the author did a good job of keeping my interest.

There ends my uh, interesting post of the week!

Side note: I also wanted to point out two books that I want to read from reading Matthew Paul Turner blog:

"Unchurched" by Matthew Paul Turner
"Angry Conversation with God" by Susane Isaacs

Happy Thursday!


(I miss working in the Christian book industry!)

My life has gotten quite a bit busy since the beginning of the year.
- Leadership team meetings (Yah! for getting voted in for another two years!!!)
- Two Young Adults Small Groups
- Grace Walk Advanced Training sessions

And recently I've decided to take more care of myself!
- finally back to the gym after a year hiatus and I even have a workout buddy
- first appointment with my own doctor this afternoon
- overdue eye appointment on Friday afternoon which will include long overdue new glasses
- next Saturday I have a hair appointment for both cut and hair dying

I like this path I am on now. Finally feeling like I'm getting back to "normal". I let everything go last year and especially myself which not only impacted my health but also my self confidence.

Now to find me a new esthetician - these eyebrows need some work....

but links about things I like/or find funny.

Totally love Joshua Jackson thanks to his awesome character in Fringe! He's in a movie called "One Week" and it's pretty much an all Canadian movie! I want to see it and apparently it's playing this weekend and next week at the Princess Twin in Uptown.


Last night's LOST episode recap: 'Lost': Flower to the people, no delay!
Seriously the funniest recap so far this season. This writer is hilarious.

I totally forgot about this website I used to read all the time - Reverend Fun - it's basically comics based on the church and biblical stuff in good fun. I'm not sure if I find this funny or sad since I've worked in the Christian book market:
http://www.reverendfun.com/index.php?date=20081208

Most Improved Schools Are In The Poorest Neighbourhoods: Study
Grey Central in Ethel - my elementary school in on the list - interesting!

Motorist Pulled Over For Allegedly Driving At 250 km/h This is absolutely insane. Apparently the type of car the guy was driving would have capped off at this speed. Oh and all he said was "I'm sorry". Have fun paying the price for being ridiculous!

Three Ontario Residents In Running For "Best Job In The World"
You should click on the link and check out the 3 videos - love the guy from Guelph singing a musical in the streets.

Top Ten Tools for your Blog
I want to pass this on to my sister - information she may need to get the word out about her website.

Random LOST items:

Ace of Cakes on LOST
Duff and his crew created a cake for the 100th episode of LOST. Awesome! Episode airs May 9th I think.

Red Shirt Theory
I didn't realize that "red shirt" characters always die on shows/characters have short life spans. Totally is true on LOST!


Websites I found while webcrawling:

MentalFloss - a lot of useless information and articles to read
Cake Wrecks - funniest website I've read in a while plus it's all about cakes which I love

"For, much of the time, low-fat foods have just as many calories as their higher-fat versions, and often they have even more sugar."

Another Transformers 2 trailer:
http://www.geeksaresexy.net/2009/02/12/video-gm-unveils-new-footage-of-transformers-2/

Interesting Facebook Stats:
Women Over 55 Take Facebook by Storm

Lately I've been addicted to watch "The Hour" while I work - I heart George Stroumboulopoulos!
His cool "One Million Acts of Green"

Best Radio Station in Town
91.5 The Beat

Apparently it is currently -26C right now. *shudder* It was freaking cold at midnight when I came into work, so didn't see that coming. The snow in the afternoon yesterday threw me off! (It was oddly awesome yesterday when it was sunny and snowing)